Tuesday, August 12, 2008

What we need for happy life?

Friends
In this fast moving competitive world, how many of us leading happy life? we cant say that. for the entire life we run for searching some thing - that is Money. Some how we are instilled from our childhood, money is very important in life. yes it is. but it is not the only one. In my view Very good Friends and Family is the important ones. Family is always special for every one. if our parents or brothers/sisters are doing any thing wrong (according to us) we can tell them. they would change if it is really wrong. we can bring them in to our way. then the family would be very good with out any misunderstanding. But friends ---?
If you are good, your friends also will be very good. How can we messure the term "Good". Simply i can say "LOYALTY IN FRIENDSHIP" Good friend always think the good for his friends. If we are good, then we will get very good friends. If we get very good friends, our life will go very happy.
Last but not the least - many of us think - we need very good guy/gal for life. That is trivial. Try to identify a person from your friends circle make him/her as your life partner. Then there will be no ego, no compulsion and no problem.
I have got good family - lovable mother and affectionate brother....
But i have very good friends - who always think good for me. always point my mistakes to correct myself.
I am trying to identify a life partner from my own friends circle - If i get one, I will be the luckest person. Otherwise move ahead with the existing life! Cheers!

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

My inspiration in life!

Today i have achived considerable amount of victory. For people from city, this may be very normal. But person like me hailing from a village from an agriculture family and first scholar, yes this is an achievement....
I dont say i have studied very well. I enjoys my life in my UG and PG. but to get in to UG and PG i prepared a lot. the amount of dedication was really great. Now i am working in a MNC and sitting in so called"USA" and writing this blog. It is really achivement
For my entire life, i have got the inspiration from my Mother. She is the person has full of vision and energy. My friends used to say that i have lots of energy. But compare to my mom i am nothing. in my previous post i ahve written about my dad. Though my dad was not supportive, my mom stood her own and made me in to this world. Her approach is always different. in tamizh we have a proverb " Thirudan kaila saavi kodukkarathu" (giving the key to the thief). when ever i ask for money, she never said no. she gives and talls me - i know you spend a lot. i also know about you that you dont drink and smoke. you always eat a lot and spend for some dress and shoes. i dont mind you spend like this. this is your money, if you spend less, i will give the savings to you. otherwise i will tell you how much you need to pay to the debtors (even then i didnt limit my expenditure:))
I really dont know how will i react to my children. but i can see i cant be comparable with my mom.
If she would have got opportunities like me, she would become a great entrepreneur. that is sure!

Monday, July 28, 2008

May be silly1 but some times hurts...

I am a teetotaller. i am not boasting myself here. but as a teetotaller, i face some of the issues every day life. When i go for parties, i don't booz, in a social occation i dont smoke/booz. That makes me some times away from such social gatherings. it can be any client meeting/party or friends get to gather, i am singled out. In this modern world, this creates some estrangement with the people.
why am i a teetotaller? I am thinking back my days. who made me to decide not to go in that direction? only answer - my dad...
My dad - he was a very good person (he is not alive). but he drinks a lot. beacuse of this, my mom and dad seperated. me and my brother went with my mom to our grand pa's palce. we had very big family grand pa, grand mas(yeah two) and uncles etc. they all treated us like their own childern. especially they gave me what ever i want. my grand mas wanted a promise from me. NOT TO DRINK! I promised with out even know about that. all because of my dad's activities. My mom and my entire family always says if your dad dont drink, he is the best person in the world. He was a Cop. He never take bribe, so honest as well vagabond. what ever he earns, he spent for drinking.
Till my school days i was with my grand parents, so i didnt even think about any thing else. When i got in to college, first time i thought of taking "BEER& WINE". (that was my thought only). Accidentally my uncle came to see me.He is one of the key person in my life. We discuss every thing. I told him this is what i feel. immediately he said "good". you are not inspired by any one. just you felt that. then he took me for a walk to near by tea shop. i dont remember the exact discussion. but when we came back from the tea shop, i myself told him that i dont even think about drinking. one thing was very clear he made me to realise my originality. Most of my good friends know about my entire life.
Days were gone with out even touching any liquor. After joining cognizant some of my new friends asked me for week end party. No one insisted me to take liquor. I am happy that none of my friends never asked me to taste the liquor. I understood "REAL FRIENDS NEVER INSIST TO DRINK". One day one of my friend (my junior actually) came to chennai to meet me. He is mathivanan from Namakkal. His dad was EX- MLA and MP. This guy came to meet me after 4 years. he gave a sweet bag and told me "Anna I cleared Civil service exam". i wished him. he also said for his rank he may getIPS/IRS. the reason to mention his part is his major subjest in civil service. he took psycology. in that he wrote a essay about me. How my dad's habbits changed my life. because of my real life he could write that essay! I was so happy some how I could help a person with my personal sad life... (my dad helped him:))
when ever i see some dad- son having nice time, i really feel jealous on them. I never had good time with my dad. I have many good people with me. (Good mom, brother, uncles and very good friends etc). but the father - son relationship, i never experienced that. I tried to recall that "had i ever called my dad as "APPA"?" the answer is No. I hardly spoke with him. Though he was a good person, both of us missed the real good relationship. Some times i could feel, i had cried...but that is true. the only reason is "My dad was a drinker".
Now coming back to the topic - i hope you now have the answer "Why am i teetotaller?"
(If this post inspires atleast one person and make him/her as teetotaller, that is my success. i dont feel any thing bad to tell my real life in this powerful medium)

Friday, July 11, 2008

really i need a blog

Friends

This is my first external blog. Though i had tried to start a blog some time back, i couldnt continue with it. Considering various reasons, i couldnt proceed further. but now i realise that how i exist with out a blog. how can i share my view to this world? after realising this i started creating a blog. before that i checked with my friend murali and as per his suggesting i create blog here.Let us catch further about my view of life and world

Thursday, January 18, 2007

life is to live- live with friends

hi

this is my first blog in this blog world.

venky